Be hospitable to one another.~1 Peter 4:9a NKJV
Mother pulled the pie from the oven. I hovered, waiting for a taste. How could she resist giving a portion to her eight-year-old daughter? I tried to make my facial expression communicate hunger.
She continued to work, scalloping the edges of a second pie. She sliced apples into the pie shell, and poured in the blueberries and raspberries that were set aside in a bowl. She topped the fruit with cinnamon, nutmeg, and allspice. I slid a finger onto the counter, eyeing the cherry filling oozing from the hand-fashioned crust of the first pie. Maybe I could sample just a smidge…
Mother’s eyes finally met mine, but not with approval. “You know I’m saving these. You can taste them tomorrow,” she said, sliding the pie further back on the counter, “if there’s any leftover.”
“But Mom, they look so good,” I pleaded.
“They do. And you’ll get to taste just how delicious they are…”
“That’s right. These are my friendship pies.”
“You don’t know if someone is coming over, right? And they don’t know you’ve made pies.”
“So why can’t I just have a slice?”
“My guests would like a whole pie,” Mother said, swatting my fingers, “that hasn’t been tasted.”
Evening approached, and as if on cue, a neighbor rang the doorbell. I careened into the kitchen, knowing I’d finally get a slice of Mother’s creation. After supper, I got a second piece–of the cherry pie she’d sliced for the neighbor–the apple and blueberry remained on the counter, reserved for any other neighbor who might show up.
And usually, someone did.
Be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous.~1 Peter 3:8b NKJV
Mother taught me to be hospitable through those friendship pies. She not only reserved pies for potential guests, she fed neighbors regularly, often hosting dinners for twenty at a time. I don’t know how she seated everyone, but she managed.
When I got older, my boyfriend was a regular guest at the dinner table. She’d hear the rumble of his sports car and ask me to set a plate. Over time, she instructed me to set a plate ahead of time, expecting his arrival.
She also gave gifts, sewed clothes for our family and for neighbors, and did other acts of service to show love.
Later, I learned about her card ministry. Some time between washing clothes, cooking, hosting parties, cleaning, sewing for the family and for neighbors, and baking friendship pies, she managed to send cards to anyone she thought needed encouragement. I never knew the scope of this ministry, nor did our friends, until we swapped stories after she departed.
The simple act of serving shows others that we care, we are listening, and we’re available.~Diane Virginia, author of The Kiss of Peace: A Contemporary Exploration into Song of Solomon
Friend, hospitality is a gift from the Lord. Because Mother modeled this for me, I now do the same. The simple act of serving shows others that we care, we are listening, and we’re available.
Do you desire to make an impact on those around you? A slice of friendship pie will do.
Share how a hospitable friend has impacted your life.
Lord God, help me to show friendship through acts of service, like Mother’s friendship pies.
In Your Beloved Son Jesus Christ’s Name, Amen.
Genre: Creative Non-fiction
Copyright 2021: The Friendship Pie: Diane Virginia: All Rights Reserved
Published: November 2021: Christian Broadcasting Network: Senior Producer Beth Patch
Published: May 2022: Inspire a Fire: Senior Editor Martin Wiles; Executive Editor Cindy Sproles
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Diane Virginia (Cunio) is an award-winning author, and the founder/ director of VineWords: Devotions and More.
Diane’s book, The Kiss of Peace: A Contemporary Exploration into Song of Solomon (Mount Zion Ridge Press),won The Sparrow Award, Second Runner Up, at the Asheville Christian Writer’s Conference 2019. The sequel, Behind the Veil: Becoming the Ascended Bride of Song of Solomon, is in the works.
She has developed the model for motion-activated musical prayer centers for use in the garden retreat, themed to the places where the Bride of Christ travels to in the allegory, Song of Solomon. She envisions these prayer gardens to serve as refuges for seekers and believers alike where they can tarry, worship, and find or deepen their relationships with Jesus Christ.
Diane is a co-editor, co-compiler, and contributing author to Love-Knots: Stories of Faith, Family, and Friendships (VineWords Publishing).
Diane is published at Answers2Prayer, Christian Broadcasting Network, Christian Devotions Ministries, Faith Beyond Fear, Inspire a Fire, Pentecostal Publishing House, PresbyCan Daily Devotional, The Secret Place, VineWords: Devotions and More, and other ministries.
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