Then came a text that made me flinch: “Whatcha doin’?”
I want to be known as a loving and giving person and am always trying to be more available to others. Somewhere in my formative years, I picked up the idea that caring for myself is selfish. But—I had taken the afternoon away from work. My body and my brain needed this four-hour appointment I had made with me.
Now I felt guilty.
For some of us, four hours alone on a random Friday afternoon seems terribly selfish when others are hurting, or your family may need your brilliance. That is, until you look at several specific times Jesus chose solitude. He knew and understood the importance of down time, and the value of being alone.
He [Jesus] left in a boat to a remote area to be alone.~Matthew 14:13 NLT
There are times we need to say “no” to others in order to say “yes” to ourselves. It is crucial we have space to think about big decisions. We must get rest in order to recharge. We need an hour once in a while to process, reflect, and plan. And, most of all, we need to set apart time alone dedicated to prayer.
But Jesus often withdrew to the wilderness for prayer.~Luke 5:16 NLT
Here’s what I have learned from experience, and from Jesus’s lead: When I am feeling depleted and worn thin, chances are that nothing creative, positive, or kind will come from me. More honestly, acting out of my exhaustion and fatigue—saying “yes” when I shouldn’t—is a big risk for everyone involved. Mini-meltdowns, frustration, and tears are all possible. Ever notice that Jesus was never anxious, never stressed, and never worn to the point of snapping?
When I am feeling depleted and worn thin, chances are that nothing creative, positive, or kind will come from me.~Cynthia Mendenhall, author of Spunkify Your Life
No one can pour from an empty pitcher. When we are empty we have nothing to left to give. We’d do best not to try.
So, back to that text, “Whatcha doin’?”
Here’s my simple and biblically based response, “I have an appointment this afternoon.”
I would suggest you use it as needed. No one will ever know the appointment is with yourself and the Lord. It’s called self-care, and it’s a page right out of Jesus’s playbook.
What are your thoughts on self-care? Are you overdue for an appointment?
Dear Heavenly Father, I apologize for the times I have not taken care of the body and mind You’ve entrusted to me. I want to be a better example of Your light and love to others—never hurried, impatient, or stressed out. Pull my spirit closer so I’ll be reminded that by connecting with You, and taking care of me, I will be able to give more, and better, to others.
In Jesus’s Name, Amen.
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Meet our Contributor
Cynthia Mendenhall is an author, speaker, adventuress, and a contributing writer to VineWords: Devotions and More. Her devotions specialize in victory over traumas such as divorce, or other life-altering situations. She encourages the reader to fully embrace her single-again status, and she inspires her to live every day to the fullest regardless of the challenges she may be working through. Once captive to guilt and fear, and hurt by the loss of a 30-year marriage, Cynthia now pursues with passion the mission of leading others into the true freedom, love, and abundant life, the believer can experience in Jesus Christ.
Cynthia is a former high school English teacher and holds a Masters’ degree in Educational Leadership. She is a Certified Christian Life Coach, a trained Chaplain, and is employed as a Career and Leadership Coach for students of Ohio University.
Her prescriptive non-fiction sits within the context of stories filled with common sense teaching, splashes of humor, and always with the Bible as her foundation. Her voice is that of a friend sharing conversation over coffee.
Cynthia is the author of Spunkify Your Life: 8 Secrets to Living with More Focus, Fascination, and Fun; Spunkify Your Life Growth Guide, and Spunkier Yet!: 8 Secrets to Living with More Fullness and Freedom
Cynthia enjoys spending time at the beach. She regularly sneaks away on all sorts of adventures, taking notes along the way as writing material inspiration. Her favorite activities include riding her cruiser bike, sunset floats in her lime green kayak named Earl, and indulging in literary novels, sipping coffee, and sampling dark chocolate.
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